I used to talk with one old man about the life. He set one saddle on the house and tell me he used to be caught in the jail because he have done something offend against the law. And his parents feel shame for him because he have done this kind illegal things. And people around his neighbor usually would laugh at his family. So at that age he lived very hard. Suffered by the people's colored sight on him.He have to run away from that city and moved here.And now he still feel guilty because he have done the things make his ancestors shame.

I start to get in one thought about the ancestor. Seems the vintage views for the ancestor in our country have made people start to learn to obey the rules of the world. they have their own balance for the rules. If you have done something wrong the first ones to feel shame on you is yourself because you have done things make your ancestors feel shame. And it is one kind sinful thoughts inside your head and make you suffered for it.And then your family and then the people around you.People have to follow his mind to do something.And the rules make people know which is right and which is wrong. The law is right after the family rules.Family rules are like one kind honor for the ancestors.And you have to follow the rules to make you live like one real man. Life is just like that.Seems since you were born  you can not make a choice. The rules runs for over hundreds years in this ancient country with such long history. 

So just get used to this rules for your life.Make the honor to your ancestors. Try your best to not doing things wrong. You are not the only one. Sometime you are treat as your most important honor for your family for hundreds years.